the 5 people here on earth

Patsy Clairmont said "You are the sum of the 5 people you hang around the most." I heard that Saturday morning at WOF and it has really punched through my skull.  Christine Caine, Amy Grant, Marilyn Meberg and others all said wonderful things, meaningful things, wise words, but i am still digesting Patsy's words.  If you take this thought about the 5 people, then there are ripple effects everywhere. Knowing who i am around all the time, i wonder if...I talked about this to a rather wise dear friend.  She thinks that if Patsy is right that is why i am sad and depressed a lot.  So if two people, who are dealing with heavy weighty life issues, are around each other every day, are they feeding each other's sadness instead of lifting one another out of it? Is there a way to stop the cycle and start new ripples?  Like the parables we are flipping around in Sunday school class, if you flip this around whom am i effecting?  Does my sadness rub off on the other people that hold me dear and choose to be around me?  Is this why someone would choose not to be around me, like a bad aura if you will?

 (and if mr eddie is reading this, and if mr eddie even suggests that mrs eddie remove herself from his presence for her own good one more time ...i'll...i'll..., well i don't know what i'll do, but it'll be something... that ISN'T a solution, anyway hun. it is at best a tiny band-aid on a sore & starting a open wound elsewhere)

Some people we just can't help but spend time with. (and i DON'T mean your better half) How we let them inside and what we allow them to do are two different things.  We don't have to let them hurt us inside. That sounds nice but it doesn't really work as easily in the real world as it does to type it in cyberspace. "How we stop the pain and prevent it from hurting us?” is the real question. How do you build up a shield that is in place to prevent flaming arrows but still removable so that we don't become unreachable to others?  Pop's can be sweet and generous but normally it's on his terms only.  His circumstance has understandably allowed him to choose bitterness. There has to be a way to repel this fog of bitterness that seeps and creeps into every part of our lives.   

Ok people i don't have the answer. i was kind of asking if anyone else had a clue.